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Going After the Things You Want

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My obsession with ThoughtCatalog continues. This time, their article on going after the things you want, regardless of society, made me wanna scream from the top of my lungs YES.

Go on, read an excerpt:

You don’t get anything you want by subscribing to the social rules of today. You remain frozen and in perpetual fear that you’ll come off as “crazy” to someone, you’re unhinged, you are officially seen as someone with no filter. God, I hate that term: no filter. What the hell does that even mean? Like, sorry, that I won’t lie and do this elaborate dance with you? Yes, I must be truly a loose cannon then!

Don’t follow these rules of modern love. They’re shit. Imagine yourself at age 90 and filled with regret. Imagine being surrounded with “what if”s and “how come”s and not being able to do anything about it because you’re too old now, you’ve been edged out of society and the only thing you have left to do now is die. That’s what will happen to you if you keep on holding the love in.

When did we become so afraid to love someone with vulnerability? When did we become so fearful of spilling our guts and being who we are? It sounds corny but it’s true.

We need to move away from this constant need of coming across as calm, cool and collected. WE WEREN’T BUILT TO BE CALM, COOL, AND COLLECTED. If we were, it wouldn’t feel so fucking exhausting all the time. It would, you know, come naturally to us. You know what comes naturally to human beings though? Being open, being messy, being raw, being unfiltered, having lots of feelings. Why should we have to stifle our true nature? Let’s go after the things we want, let’s love each other brutally and honestly, and not worry about the consequences.


To read the entire article (and you should) head over here. Article written by Ryan O’Connell.

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December 6, 2012 - 9:50 am

Anacristina - this is amazing. i don’t want “what ifs”, thanks for sharing this. it gave me a little more courage.

x’s & o’s

December 13, 2012 - 10:38 pm

Avi D. - Thank you so much for sharing this article, Amanda! Wow. Just wow. It is just what I needed to read. I’ve been reading your blog and essaying your recipes for over 2 years now, and I recently started a new job, got a promotion, and am in the process of bringing goals to fruition (finishing my master’s in May, moving out of my parents’ house, getting a car, saving up for travel in the new year, and working up the courage to ask out a really great guy who is a few years my senior). I hate this weird, tense, pent-up feeling I’ve been carrying inside for the past few weeks, and I think it’s time to do something about it.

December 16, 2012 - 8:30 am

aboyce18 - You have no idea how thankful I am for this comment. Seriously, appreciate all the feedback. here’s to doing more about what YOU want, and making things happen.

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